There’s nothing wrong with striving to be perfect; it helps us to become better and better every day, reaching yet another level of our best selves. Yet there are times when it can stop our success.
First, striving for that defining moment of perfectionism may hinder us from taking calculated risks or making an important commitment. Sometimes it is not wise or beneficial to wait for that pre-conceived defining moment. For example, I teach people how to do energy healing, and when I see my students doing it very well, I tell them to start healing others.” Then they say “oh, no, I can’t do that. I have to complete all the training courses before actually healing others.” This doesn’t make sense to me because I believe that they have something to offer right now. They have the power to help others, but they don’t want to use their power because of their desire for perfection. It’s true that the next sessions will be beneficial but they are hindered by a preconceived notion that they have not reached perfection and therefore they are not ready.
I usually suggest that they start using their skill, power, knowledge – whatever it is, BEFORE perfecting it. Whatever level of expertise they are, they can offer value to others. I encourage individuals to get started as soon as they are capable.
Secondly, perfectionism can be a strength. But when it is focused on excessively, it can make one lose confidence. By becoming hyper-sensitive towards your own mistakes, by setting standards of achievement that are almost impossible to achieve and by becoming unnecessarily hard on oneself when targets are not met, we lose sight of what is important. We become tense and unhappy, ultimately believing that we will never achieve perfection.
As a result, we push aside tasks that we think we can no longer achieve to perfection and tackle them at the last minute or just before the deadline. This is a form of procrastination, and I know many people have experienced this in one way or another.
So, let me share with you three ways to avoid procrastination.
- One way to avoid procrastination is to be kind to ourselves, give recognition to the activities that we did well, and maintain our self-confidence. We should make the time to remind ourselves, “I am creating value, I am making progress, and I am on the right path.”
- Another way to avoid procrastination is to believe that every outcome has a lesson to be learnt and there is no such thing as failure. You know, we are all human. We don’t have to be perfect all of the time. Basically, nobody is perfect. We don’t have to be afraid of failure because there’s no such thing as failure. Whatever happens, we just accept the outcome, learn something from it, and move on. By doing so, we continue to grow; continue to be better. If we just let go of our fear of failure, there’s really nothing to worry about, and life can get easier.
- A third way to avoid procrastination is to stop focusing on the end results and start enjoying all the steps towards the outcome. The final result is important, but the path to reach it is even more important, because it shows us how we grow as a person. If we can look at it this way, we no longer need to be afraid of the final result. Instead, we can use our real power without needing to be hindered by notions of perfectionism or procrastination.
I’ve seen so many people hiding their real power because of perfectionism and procrastination, and I hope this article can help them.
Love and gratitude,